Coffee Mugs and New Homes
Something dawned on me this morning and I wondered if anyone else has experienced something similar.
I have in the past acquired things that I thought would bring about my dream life. I have not consciously sought the somewhat fuller, richer, more interesting life, but that vision has tickled at my daydreams. But alas, when I had the thing, life didn't change. Or at least not much!
What occurred to me as I went to get my cup of coffee this morning is that this wonderful handmade pottery cup with the aqua glaze outside and rich gold color inside, did not make my fantasy life come to pass. When I bought the mug in Taos last summer I envisioned myself sitting out on the patio, drinking coffee, reading the paper, being a lady of leisure. Hello...it is still just me, the working girl (and I use the term loosely) who picks up the granddaughter after school, can't get a handle on the laundry, is behind on paying bills, and who rarely drinks coffee outside.
That made me think about our house. We moved from our cookie cutter 3 bd/2 ba brick home of 20 years to this charming 2 bd/2ba + art room bungalow home in an interesting & historic neighborhood 2 years ago. When we bought this house I envisioned us entertaining, parties on the patio with music and laughter, and walking at the park everyday. Hello again...it is still just me/us, we rarely have parties, have walked around the park together once, and of course the property taxes have increased drastically. (NOTE: the me/us and I/we is important. My daydream of what this particular house would allow my life to become, almost certainly was NOT a daydream shared by my husband - who coincidentally did the bulk of the 2 months of tedious remodeling.)
Well, I don't regret purchasing the cool mug or this wonderful house but acquiring things will not change our lives. Or at least that is what I have found. As my granddaughter would say…duh! And it took me too many years to learn this. Moral of the story…if you want the mug, buy it. But remember that it won’t make you handsome or beautiful or popular and you still have to take out the trash.
Okay...I'm going to drink my water now!
I have in the past acquired things that I thought would bring about my dream life. I have not consciously sought the somewhat fuller, richer, more interesting life, but that vision has tickled at my daydreams. But alas, when I had the thing, life didn't change. Or at least not much!
What occurred to me as I went to get my cup of coffee this morning is that this wonderful handmade pottery cup with the aqua glaze outside and rich gold color inside, did not make my fantasy life come to pass. When I bought the mug in Taos last summer I envisioned myself sitting out on the patio, drinking coffee, reading the paper, being a lady of leisure. Hello...it is still just me, the working girl (and I use the term loosely) who picks up the granddaughter after school, can't get a handle on the laundry, is behind on paying bills, and who rarely drinks coffee outside.
That made me think about our house. We moved from our cookie cutter 3 bd/2 ba brick home of 20 years to this charming 2 bd/2ba + art room bungalow home in an interesting & historic neighborhood 2 years ago. When we bought this house I envisioned us entertaining, parties on the patio with music and laughter, and walking at the park everyday. Hello again...it is still just me/us, we rarely have parties, have walked around the park together once, and of course the property taxes have increased drastically. (NOTE: the me/us and I/we is important. My daydream of what this particular house would allow my life to become, almost certainly was NOT a daydream shared by my husband - who coincidentally did the bulk of the 2 months of tedious remodeling.)
Well, I don't regret purchasing the cool mug or this wonderful house but acquiring things will not change our lives. Or at least that is what I have found. As my granddaughter would say…duh! And it took me too many years to learn this. Moral of the story…if you want the mug, buy it. But remember that it won’t make you handsome or beautiful or popular and you still have to take out the trash.
Okay...I'm going to drink my water now!
posted by Mary @ 8:21 PM
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